I don’t know about you, but when I live in a way that falls short of the person I want to be, it hurts. A lot. I feel small, I feel faulty, broken, worthless. I feel like I’ve failed like I have hurt or let other people down. I feel undeserving of love.
Have you ever been frozen by the fear of what others were thinking of you?
As a professional dancer, I went through a lot of my training obsessed with those around me were thinking of me, hanging off of every word that my teachers said to make or break my spirits. It was a brutal and debilitating pattern to be stuck in.
In reaching out for help I needed though, I gradually gained and mastered the mindsets and tools I needed to shift this.
The secret lay in learning how to return again and again to what was happening for me on the INSIDE - staying connected to what I was feeling in my body.
Fear, like any emotion, is experienced as felt sensations in the body. Shortness of breath, fast beating heart, tightness in your chest or guts, sweaty palms, dry mouth – these are signs and symptoms of fear.
Because a feeling of discomfort is inherent in these sensations, our instinct is to try to avoid or get away from what we are feeling. What we don’t realize is that it is by actually FEELING INTO the sensations happening in the body that they will then shift, lessen or dissipate of their own accord.
Try this on for size… Who do you want to be 12 months from now? What about in 3 years? Or in 5 years? Tuning into who and how we want to be in the future is a powerful way to create and accelerate positive change. By deeply imagining an inspired version of ourselves in the future we can start to be that person today.
The beauty of the human body is that it is designed to work best with gravity. Counter-intuitively, it is actually in learning to feel our weight into the ground that we find the most ease, length and height through our bodies. By learning to feel and trust the ground under us we can feel better and exude that feeling of grounded solidity - the basis of confidence - to the world around us. Feel it for yourself - try this: